How do you get through to someone who trusts no one and loves isolation?

with a lot of work ,and only if the person wants to change or your doom to failure,there is no one sentence answerHow do you get through to someone who trusts no one and loves isolation?
by all means do not challenge them. Learn there philosophy, learn the why of their situation. then ask them for advice on someone just like them with out them realizing. When their advice contradicts what they are doing, hopefully they will get it. but don't pounce this contradiction on them, they may just shut down on you. Just leave it in the air, in time they will see it if along with this you offer love that they can trust.





But really I think people shut down like this for emotional reasons. Something is wrong in their hearts and they have shut down. There is a reality they don't want to face so they have let it go. Like a crab lets go of a leg when you grab it. I would find out what they are comfortable with and join them at that. but here and there I would add a little something to the routine. For example if all they do is stay in the house but go for icecream once a week. Well then I would join them for ice cream a couple of times and then on one of the times I would do icecream and ask if we could stop at the video store to get a video. Hence taking them into the real world with out them realizing they are doing so.





Red light green light 123 is a game for the children but it's really about learning to follow orders and conform to society. But the children don't know they are learning, to them they are just having fun and as you teach them, they think you are cool because you are doing a good job of fooling them. You have to accomplish something like this but speak of it with no one because it could be construed as deameaning very easily while your intention is love.





And when ever you can, add more and more to the routine until one day he does it all with out you. running 4 miles a day could reallly help with this because running reduces fear, and isolation is all about fear. good luckHow do you get through to someone who trusts no one and loves isolation?
Well, if you really like this person and have no ulterior motives...go slow and easy. Let them have their space, but always leave the door open with invites to do something or occasional texts or notes.